Empowerment

I noticed the knot in my stomach area, in the center of self-power as I was breathing with the awareness. I realized that how much of my power I give away by trying to control other people’s emotions. This is something most of the empathetic, sensitive people do or learned to do at early ages in order to ensure there is a peace and harmony in our environment so that we feel safe, comfortable and at peace. However, I have never realized how much of this behavior has been creating impediments within the management of my own power. At that very moment, it became crystal clear to me that we, the sensitive people, send big chunk of our power over the people who are experiencing some sort of discomfort to make them feel better, happy or comfortable. However, the power we send is not usable by them, and rather it diminishes our own energy levels and goes against ourselves by chocking our own self-power management center, the 3rd chakra. We are not aware of this, nor the impact of it, while feeling exhausted, nervous, anxious and power-less until we take a moment to realize what we do, such as in my case…

I also noticed that our power, and energy hovering over the other persons suffocates them and disables their ability to freely feel what they chose to feel in order to continue with their growth…I remember my cousin being extremely loving, with the tears in his eyes, looking at me during the time when I lost my dad, and saying to me "I am trying to make everyone happy". I thought of saying to him, darling this is an exhausting act and "mission impossible". Having to know that I tried that most of my young and adult life…And forcing me to be happy during the time that requires growth through experiencing grief and sadness is not good for me, also it goes against my truth. I kept quiet at that time but expressing this now to everyone who is reading it…

How does then one change this behavior towards self-empowerment? What I else I realized at the moment of clear awareness is that one way to do this is to you call your power back (see Strategy Execution and Focus Blog). I used the same prayer and said, "I call my power back from the people and places I should not have invested my power". I affirmed myself to use my power only to empower myself and not to send out to control anyone’s feelings or emotions even if that means I predict a possible conflict in between my loved ones. Sending my power to hover over them or the situation is a helpless, dysfunctional and dis-able-ing act. They need to be able to express themselves freely and exchange the energy that allows their growth. We can exert our opinion with love or better yet imagine this exchange to be harmonious, loving and the one that will serve the highest and best for everyone involved. That’s all about it. And to know that sending our power away diminishes our ability to channel the grace and be the transponder of love and kindness silently for this scenario. So for you to call your power back into you and use yourself as an antenna that broadcasts harmony from the divinity or your own goodness will serve the situation in a much better way while keeping you in your own grace and power.

I admit that I am still working to resolve the knot in my stomach. After all God only knows for how many years, where, and over how many people I have sent it to in order to provide peace, love, kindness and harmony…I know that this will be a gradual healing. And in order for us to heal across the cultures, time and space, we all need to call our power back to where it belongs…Hence, this blog for the awareness of it for today…

Whose behavior makes you uncomfortable and out of control? Notice it, whether it is the president of a country, your aunt, your spouse, your boss, your children the person cuts in front of you or whoever it might be. How are you trying to change or control their behavior? Once you are able to step out of it into the level of awareness, and then breathe into your own body, you will get much clarity on what this is doing for you. Then the healing will start…With the generated awareness, over the time you will be able to course correct, shift your behavior, maintain your power and with that power be able to generate self-compassion to heal your own heart.

May you are able to stay strong in the moments of discomfort to enable and empower yourself and others towards the healing to take place…

Picture credits: http://collecticlife.blogspot.com.tr/2011_12_01_archive.html

Namaste,

Tijen

Strategy execution and focus

As a strategic advisor I taught many executives over the years how to create clear vision and how to focus on that vision so that they can bring the vision into life. I often see that the people first of all do not have a clear vision. It takes an effort to clarify. Then they often don’t have a strategy about how to execute the vision. Clarifying the vision and setting the strategy are two different skills. The first one requires a coach like approach to get it out of the people; the second one requires consulting skills to help them design. I enjoyed doing it both and helped many strategies to become alive. That is one of my gifts in this life.

Since the beginning of the year, as I shared in my few logs and on Instagram, I am purging. We often don’t realize that the things we have and our life style has a big impact on our vision. Both of these were a result of the vision that accumulated the things and created the lifestyle. Once you grew out of that vision, it requires reassessing both and eliminating the things that are not in line with the new vision.

As I saw in the corporate world, I see in the personal life lots of people struggling to bring anew in their life due to lack of vision and lack of strategy. My friends are often in awe seeing how fast I implement changes into my life. It takes guts and takes strategy. It is also often overlooked that the how much your energy is divided by the things you have. I know this already, but I am still in awe since January by living this truth. I had so many computers lying around and so many paper and electronic files. I have spent the big part of the winter months going through them, consolidating and eliminating. It feels like a huge task to go through them all since for me it is not a fun thing to do. I rather pay a teenager to get it done but it requires your decision making and attention. I am now feeling grateful that I didn’t hire someone to do it as it felt like I needed to go through and see what I did, how much I spread my energies over how many things; then consolidate, collect and reunite them back into me. It was a big chore with big reward…

I have a prayer that I came up with when I was working on calling my energy and power back from the time, space and people a few years ago. It goes like this "I call my power back from the people, from the places; from the past, from the future to the now". It is a power-full prayer and one can feel the energy flowing back right through the belly button (3rd chakra) if you are sensitive to your energies and do this in a quiet space. This purging and consolidating work did the same. We don’t realize how much of our energy invested in the things, activities and people. So focusing on all will have great energetic returns to one’s life. And this is one of the reasons, along with the unclear vision; people often cannot implement changes in their life as they have no energy left to invest in them.

I was part of the American culture of activity hoarding to make myself feel better for many years. In this culture- needless to say I am now observing all around the world due to American influence-, self-worth is very much associated with the busy-ness of the human being. The distorted belief is that, if you are not busy, you must not be that important…It took me years to get out of it and realizing my self-worth has nothing to do with my business or any things else. I am worthy, just by my existence. I am a creation of divine for a reason and that reason is nothing to do with how much I do, rather how I engage in this world. How I bring my essence into my engagements…

So today, I would like to bring awareness into your life and ask you where, who and how many things in your life your energy is spread thin? What are your energetic investments and what is your return? What is the ROI (Return on Investment)? What is the yield? What was your vision when you started investing your energy, your breath on these things? What is your vision now? How are these investments in alignment with your current vision? How will you close the gap in your energetic investments? Which accounts need to close? Where do you need to accept the loss and move on? What are your most profitable ones, and how do you shift your focus onto them more?

Here is today’s prayer…May you find inspiration to reassess your life. May you find courage to let go of the energetic connections are diminishing your life source. May you are able to clarify and execute your vision…

Picture credits: yogagirl2.wordpress.com

Namaste,

Tijen