Self-authentication

We often are interested in authentication for the things that are precious to us such as antiques, art, jewelry; designer items, etc. however, never think to authenticate our most precious thing, ourselves…

Today I decided to introduce this new concept for your awareness. On my other blogs I spoke about social and cultural influences on our being as well as our subconscious. It is not a surprise to anyone of you to see yourself behaving like one of your family member although you think you are very different than them. Or to feel the pressure to behave in a certain way due to cultural doctrines, despite the fact it doesn’t feel right or good for you. In those moments you are exercising your free will towards self-invalidation. When you chose to behave in a way that is not representing your truth, you are falsifying yourself, and giving your power away to someone else or collective psyche of a social group. There are so many examples of this out there and fashion is a very easy one to point out. When you chose to ignore your own taste to fit in and follow what someone else says true for the season, then you are giving your power away to the fashion industry to manage it for you while falsifying yourself, your own truth.

Each time you chose to behave in such a way, you are then weakening your own power. In the Yogic tradition, it is 3rd chakra where our personal will reside. The more you give in and falsify you, weaker you get to follow your own will. And angrier you get as your system knows what is true for you. The source of a lot of depression cases can be found in this type of self-falsification and one’s inability to hold on to their truth.

How can one come back to one’s own power then and re-authenticate one’s self? You may think that all those people doing crunches like crazy bunch at the Gyms to have a six pack found the solution. That cannot be further from the truth. I find most of the exercises out there are being imposed upon people are useless. Exercising industry turned into a fashion-like industry at least in the US. People are keep coming up with something new and useless to make more money on. Most of the exercises are leading people building superficial muscles towards the exterior of the body while weakening and tightening inside. What I recommend is endurance, which is flexibility with strength. That is the key. So you could start building your powerhouse, your 3rd chakra back by engaging exercises such as plank, boat, pushups that build strength within. As the tissue you need to strengthen starts from the pubic bone, connects to belly button and to the heart center. You can see how this dynamic eventually closes your heart to you and diminishes your ability to love yourself.

Along the side of such exercises, I recommend a reflective time to notice where in your body that breath is not flowing through. Your breath, as I mentioned in my other blogs, is one of your major guide. Where breath cannot go through (I call this breath-unable places within the body), there is a falsehood that needs to be resolved and released so that your higher- self, your soul and divine can come to and through you.

As you create awareness about where you hold the tension, you will also start to understand in what circumstances, situations, and towards who you give your power to. This part requires change in the behavior headed for honoring one’s self and you may need a guide, a mentor or a coach to support you while you are choosing differently, especially if you haven’t done this kind of a work before or get to the intimacy with yourself before.

As you learn to honor, re-authenticate yourself and clear your body as well as your consciousness out of the falsifications and untruth, you will move towards more blissful, joyous and self-reverent life.

May you always and all ways understand and honor your true North. May you find strength within to express your truth with love. May you are able to dismiss the falsification and untruth offerings with grace, dignity, compassion, peace and harmony.

PS: I am offering special for self-empowerment 5-sessions pack for who is connecting me and mentioning this blog. Offer expires May 30, 2015. These sessions are structured to explore where you go against yourself and your truth, how and which circumstances you give your power away. During the sessions you will obtain clarity on your behavioral patterns and then will have a choice to make a change. I will utilize coaching questions, guided meditations, breathing techniques, occasional yoga postures and some other techniques for this particular series.

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Empowerment

I noticed the knot in my stomach area, in the center of self-power as I was breathing with the awareness. I realized that how much of my power I give away by trying to control other people’s emotions. This is something most of the empathetic, sensitive people do or learned to do at early ages in order to ensure there is a peace and harmony in our environment so that we feel safe, comfortable and at peace. However, I have never realized how much of this behavior has been creating impediments within the management of my own power. At that very moment, it became crystal clear to me that we, the sensitive people, send big chunk of our power over the people who are experiencing some sort of discomfort to make them feel better, happy or comfortable. However, the power we send is not usable by them, and rather it diminishes our own energy levels and goes against ourselves by chocking our own self-power management center, the 3rd chakra. We are not aware of this, nor the impact of it, while feeling exhausted, nervous, anxious and power-less until we take a moment to realize what we do, such as in my case…

I also noticed that our power, and energy hovering over the other persons suffocates them and disables their ability to freely feel what they chose to feel in order to continue with their growth…I remember my cousin being extremely loving, with the tears in his eyes, looking at me during the time when I lost my dad, and saying to me "I am trying to make everyone happy". I thought of saying to him, darling this is an exhausting act and "mission impossible". Having to know that I tried that most of my young and adult life…And forcing me to be happy during the time that requires growth through experiencing grief and sadness is not good for me, also it goes against my truth. I kept quiet at that time but expressing this now to everyone who is reading it…

How does then one change this behavior towards self-empowerment? What I else I realized at the moment of clear awareness is that one way to do this is to you call your power back (see Strategy Execution and Focus Blog). I used the same prayer and said, "I call my power back from the people and places I should not have invested my power". I affirmed myself to use my power only to empower myself and not to send out to control anyone’s feelings or emotions even if that means I predict a possible conflict in between my loved ones. Sending my power to hover over them or the situation is a helpless, dysfunctional and dis-able-ing act. They need to be able to express themselves freely and exchange the energy that allows their growth. We can exert our opinion with love or better yet imagine this exchange to be harmonious, loving and the one that will serve the highest and best for everyone involved. That’s all about it. And to know that sending our power away diminishes our ability to channel the grace and be the transponder of love and kindness silently for this scenario. So for you to call your power back into you and use yourself as an antenna that broadcasts harmony from the divinity or your own goodness will serve the situation in a much better way while keeping you in your own grace and power.

I admit that I am still working to resolve the knot in my stomach. After all God only knows for how many years, where, and over how many people I have sent it to in order to provide peace, love, kindness and harmony…I know that this will be a gradual healing. And in order for us to heal across the cultures, time and space, we all need to call our power back to where it belongs…Hence, this blog for the awareness of it for today…

Whose behavior makes you uncomfortable and out of control? Notice it, whether it is the president of a country, your aunt, your spouse, your boss, your children the person cuts in front of you or whoever it might be. How are you trying to change or control their behavior? Once you are able to step out of it into the level of awareness, and then breathe into your own body, you will get much clarity on what this is doing for you. Then the healing will start…With the generated awareness, over the time you will be able to course correct, shift your behavior, maintain your power and with that power be able to generate self-compassion to heal your own heart.

May you are able to stay strong in the moments of discomfort to enable and empower yourself and others towards the healing to take place…

Picture credits: http://collecticlife.blogspot.com.tr/2011_12_01_archive.html

Namaste,

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